F. L. Y.

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Have you ever wondered what makes a relationship tick? It's love, understanding, respect that keeps it alive but much before that, it is the desire to have that person in your life. In spite of many differences, you patch up. You do that because when you sideline all the bitterness from it, you have a bunch of memories which tells you - this relationship is worth it!

You do everything because you know no relationship is perfect. You had differences with your parents, siblings, and friends, and eventually, you forget those differences and they are still there in your life. Maybe, you left few friends and relatives in that process. However, you left only those who were not important or the difference was much bigger than the relation. There is, of course, a social angle to it. You can't leave your family. Who does that? You can't leave your spouse. Why? Society will judge you, you'll have a tabooed word associated with you for your entire life. Now, the question is...what about you?

You have a relationship to which you are completely loving and honest. You make efforts to keep it alive, you change yourself and you make sacrifices. But many years down the lane, you realize you have lost yourself. You are nobody. You don't even know what makes you happy. Sad, isn't it?

And one day you make a decision. You say to yourself, 'I want to be happy. I want nothing but happiness.' This is the day, you find all the answers you have been looking for.

Respect yourself before you respect others. Give your happiness more value. Make sacrifices not because someone you love will be happy, make it because it makes you happy. Above all, love yourself...

P. S. - But still.... It Takes Two to Tango, Two to Fight and Two to make it Alright!

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  1. Found In FolsomSeptember 5, 2013 at 1:26 PM

    Beautiful, Saru..true too..many times, it's not justt about two..it's the kids that matter..many people stick to the relationship for the sake of kids..But, I agree our happiness first :)

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  2. kalpana solsiSeptember 5, 2013 at 1:53 PM

    First love yourself. and this is what we do the last. we try to keep everybody happy losing one-self in the process.

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  3. Sridevi Nayak KSeptember 5, 2013 at 2:01 PM

    Beautiful. :)

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  4. PanchaliSeptember 5, 2013 at 2:46 PM

    The concluding lines say it all. Well said, Saru!! Beautifully penned...as usual :)

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  5. BushraSeptember 5, 2013 at 2:55 PM

    Not the age for all these talks :P Awesome write-up though ;D

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  6. Someone is SpecialSeptember 23, 2013 at 9:52 AM

    Another meaningful write-up from you :)

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  7. sushmithaSeptember 23, 2013 at 10:32 AM

    True words :) Indeed the desire to have that person in your life matters more :)

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  8. RachnaSeptember 23, 2013 at 10:48 AM

    Absolutely, loving oneself and respecting one's own wishes are paramount. Yet life is not so black and white. There are times when you give and other times when you take. End result should always be more pluses than minuses.

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  9. GopalSeptember 23, 2013 at 12:27 PM

    Very true...

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  10. Destination InfinitySeptember 23, 2013 at 1:00 PM

    I value honesty over happiness in any kind of relationship. As you can guess, my social circle is very limited due to this reason, but I am very much ok with it.

    Destination Infinity

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  11. Jayashree SrivatsanSeptember 23, 2013 at 7:14 PM

    As Rachna put it there are times you need to give. Also self love should not turn into ego or arrogance. Well written Saru

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  12. TeamgsquareSeptember 23, 2013 at 11:37 PM

    Wonderfully penned. Two tango/fight and in our case travel also.

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  13. MithlashSeptember 23, 2013 at 11:47 PM

    As usual- beautiful thought expressed beautifully!
    Yes, ignoring negativity gives mileage to any kind of relationship, be it friends, family or other. Sometime, for the happiness of our dear one , we do make sacrifices. Sacrifice is not a bad ingredients in relationship as long as you are taking conscious decision. Means you should know how this will impact you as a individual. If you are OK with that, In my opinion people should not hesitate to put the ingredient of sacrifice.

    Overall nice post but length wise I am not satisfied and you concluded it very soon. I wanted to read it as an article :)

    Keep rocking!


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  14. Rahul BhatiaSeptember 24, 2013 at 12:01 AM

    Saru, the art of giving and not expecting is the key to happiness in every situation be it relationship, work , or otherwise:) In very few WORDS you said it all!

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  15. AditiSeptember 24, 2013 at 1:23 AM

    Very beautifully said. Learn to love yourself first, respect who you are and see the difference it makes in your life!

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  16. RamakrishnanSeptember 24, 2013 at 4:42 AM

    Thanks for sharing your beautiful and sensible thoughts.

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  17. Blasphemous AestheteSeptember 24, 2013 at 11:28 AM

    It reminds me of the Hindi song 'humko man ki shakti dena, man vijay karein, doosron ki jai se pehle, khud ko jai karein' :)

    Nice post!

    Cheers,
    Blasphemous Aesthete

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  18. Pooja AbhaySeptember 24, 2013 at 1:45 PM

    That's the most difficult thing to do na Saru - to love oneself. Most of the times, we end up finding faults in ourselves. If we learn to love ourselves, probably, we will learn to care less about what others feel about us. Beautifully written Saru.

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  19. AnonymousSeptember 25, 2013 at 3:08 AM

    Very well put Saru. Relationships require give and take and if only one person is giving, they are bound to fail.

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  20. RuchikaSeptember 25, 2013 at 3:45 AM

    Very right .. if you don't love yourself then it will be difficult to love others as well. Thanx for the nice post.

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  21. Sabyasachi PatraSeptember 25, 2013 at 10:15 AM

    Saru,
    I agree that Self respect is very important. A lot of problems are caused by low self esteem. People carry those complexes and even small jokes or comments are misunderstood as we look at those from our own inferiority complex.

    I strongly believe that sacrifice is not a win-win solution. It is a compromise. When you sacrifice, you have it in your back of mind that you have done "so much" for someone. That may tick your ego, however, it also builds up within you that you have been putting all those coins in the box but the other side is not doing enough. Sooner or later that is going to break. Be happy. There is only one life to live.

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  22. AnonymousSeptember 25, 2013 at 11:53 AM

    More than any relationship, one must value the relationship one has with self. Till then, we will always be frustrated. Respect yourself first and you’ll surely FLY. Well said, Saru! :-)

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  23. AnonymousSeptember 25, 2013 at 12:07 PM

    Very Nice Read..If we can love ourselves,we will surely be able to love others and self-respect is very important,a person with no self respect will never respect others..And Yes relationship is like a very thin thread we need to nurture with every passing day.. :)

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  24. AnonymousSeptember 25, 2013 at 12:21 PM

    "In spite of many differences, you patch up. You do that because when you sideline all the bitterness from it, you have a bunch of memories which tells you - This relationship is worth it!"-(so true!)

    (y) You are truly very intelligent. :D

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  25. magiceyeSeptember 25, 2013 at 1:03 PM

    I agree totally with your last paragraph!

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  26. RajeshSeptember 25, 2013 at 1:34 PM

    Wonderful, makes lot of sense.

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  27. hindustanisakhisaheliSeptember 25, 2013 at 1:51 PM

    hm mmminspiring

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  28. zunnurSeptember 25, 2013 at 11:04 PM

    Very well written. I especially love this line, "Make sacrifices not because someone you love will be happy, make it because it makes you happy."
    If I can relate this to work, I would say that you should do a good job to feel the satisfaction and not to please your boss.

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  29. आर्यावर्त डेस्कSeptember 26, 2013 at 3:40 AM

    प्रभावी !!!
    शुभकामना
    आर्यावर्त

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  30. AnonymousSeptember 26, 2013 at 5:14 AM

    nice post!!

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  31. ekta khetanSeptember 26, 2013 at 5:17 AM

    Very True. It is very hurting to see people break the basic covenant of love n relations and family over petty issues..one tries harming one's own self respect and happiness to accommodate others still people walk over you and you feel small in your own eyes. It is like people take your love for your weakness.

    I believe there is no discord bigger than love, nor any doubt bigger than relations. Life is about making sacrifices but when they don't yield results, u feel even sad. Why cry for people who dont care for you? Who use you, abuse you and walk without explaining. Its better be alone than nurse feelings of broken heart.
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  32. Afshan ShaikSeptember 26, 2013 at 5:35 AM

    I loved the PS more than the post !!
    Just what I needed to day :)
    Thanks

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  33. Red HandedSeptember 26, 2013 at 6:16 AM

    AGAIN AND AGAIN AND AGAIN...you never fail to inspire. That is a lesson to be learnt.

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  34. Hey Wait, Listen!September 26, 2013 at 6:29 AM

    "Make sacrifices not because someone you love will be happy, make it because it makes you happy." So true. Awesome post! Loved it! :)

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  35. AnonymousSeptember 26, 2013 at 9:12 AM

    So inspiring!

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  36. AnonymousSeptember 26, 2013 at 9:22 AM

    True and beautiful!

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  37. sibiSeptember 26, 2013 at 10:56 AM

    The secret of happiness: 'Love without expectations'

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  38. UnknownSeptember 26, 2013 at 4:35 PM

    Loved it.Especially the wrap-up line.says it all.........

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  39. AnonymousSeptember 28, 2013 at 3:20 AM

    That's so true ! You can only give happiness when you are happy from within. And I believe, happiness is a conscious choice. It doesn't happen of its own, unless you specifically decide to be happy.

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  40. Anupama TripathiSeptember 28, 2013 at 10:29 AM

    So true ... .U can spread happieness only when u r yourself happy ...!!no pretentions and the life becomes easy .If u learn to be happy ...u make others also happy .....!!nice article ....

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  41. Sri ValliSeptember 28, 2013 at 12:24 PM

    You've expressed the simple yet complex point so beautifully, Thoughtful and inspirng post! :) F. L. Y. ~ Beautiful message!

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  42. Ankur AnandSeptember 29, 2013 at 1:57 AM

    thoughtful and inspiring !

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  43. RahulSeptember 29, 2013 at 10:48 AM

    Well said..if you are not happy, you can never make anyone else happy.. :)

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  44. Khoty MathurSeptember 30, 2013 at 5:14 AM

    Wise words. Couldn't help smiling at the P.S.

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  45. C SureshSeptember 30, 2013 at 9:15 AM

    Perfectly true Saru and well said. The tragedy of people is that they want the approval of others to even like themselves.

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  46. Chetan MaheshwariOctober 6, 2013 at 2:51 AM

    Loving yourself is most important for anything in life. ...NICELY WRITTEN

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  47. UnknownOctober 11, 2013 at 1:35 AM

    It's really Beautiful!!!!!!!!!!!
    just loved it

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  48. Saru SinghalOctober 11, 2013 at 9:40 AM

    @Everyone - Thanks for reading and adding another dimension to this topic with your comments.

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